Love · FORTUNE
Fortune #46
Caution
If you feel afraid before seeing someone again, take that fear seriously. Plan safe contact and a safe place before considering reconciliation.
QUOTE CARD
A quote for you
“หนทางแก้ความผิด คือส่องแสงแห่งความจริงลงไป”
— ไอดา บี. เวลส์
นักข่าวสืบสวนและนักเคลื่อนไหวสิทธิพลเมืองชาวอเมริกัน ผู้ต่อต้านการประชาทัณฑ์
- Person
- Ida B. Wells
- Source work
- The Light of Truth: Writings of an Anti-Lynching Crusader
- Source text
- The way to right wrongs is to turn the light of truth upon them.
STORY & REFLECTION
Fear that was taken seriously
Research-based illustration · Personalized safety planning
Illustrative scene: Before a reconciliation meeting, someone feels afraid each time the partner's name appears on screen. At their last meeting, the partner shouted and blocked the exit.
They postpone the meeting, tell a trusted person what happened, and plan a place and route they can control. Taking fear seriously is information for safety, not weakness.
The Hotline describes a safety plan as a personalized plan for increasing safety while in a relationship, while preparing to leave, or after leaving. Fear before seeing someone is information worth using to plan contacts, destinations, and support.
You may postpone a meeting when you feel unsafe. You do not have to meet alone to prove sincerity.
Reflection
Fear about safety deserves serious attention.
A small action today
Choose safety and contact trusted people or a support service.
A question to reflect on
Before the next meeting, do you have a safe way to leave and someone to contact?