Love · FORTUNE
Fortune #05
Good fortune
Personal time is not a verdict on how much you love someone. State the boundary and when you can reconnect.
QUOTE CARD
A quote for you
“ความรักคือการที่ความเดียวดายสองดวงคอยปกป้อง ขีดขอบเขต และทักทายกัน”
— ไรเนอร์ มาเรีย ริลเคอ
กวีภาษาเยอรมันเชื้อสายโบฮีเมีย ผู้เขียน Letters to a Young Poet
- Person
- Rainer Maria Rilke
- Source work
- Letters to a Young Poet, Letter Seven
- Source text
- A love that consists of two solitudes protecting and bordering on, and greeting each other.
STORY & REFLECTION
Personal space that still belongs in love
Research-based illustration · Stating a boundary without punishment
Illustrative scene: After a day among people, one partner wants to read quietly, while the other wants to talk at once. Their short answers have often sounded like anger.
This time they say, “I need half an hour alone, then I want to hear about your day.” The other partner knows they are not being pushed away, and the reader does not have to talk while depleted.
Planned Parenthood explains that boundaries communicate what each person is and is not comfortable with. A boundary is therefore useful information for respectful, voluntary closeness rather than a punishment or rejection.
A boundary with a clear time and need does not diminish love. It lets the other person respond without guessing.
Reflection
Closeness can coexist with personal space.
A small action today
Ask when a good time would be for an important talk.
A question to reflect on
What kind of personal time do you need, and how can you explain it clearly?